Dating can be difficult unless you know what really works with men. It is often a case of trial and error and learning from your mistakes as you make them. However, if you remain unconscious of the types of mistakes that women make and the behaviours that do not work with men, then you may be sabotaging your dating success unnecessarily. Here are 4 fatal mistakes that will definitely be detrimental to your success at dating. If you are looking to break through to a happy, loving, successful relationship then you need to take note now.
Mistake #1 - Getting attached before you know him well
When you allow yourself to become attached to a man before you know him properly, you open yourself up to being abused or hurt. Men have a tendency to push your boundaries to see what they can get away with and you are much more likely to tolerate his bad behaviour when you are emotionally attached to him. If you allow him to take advantage, he will think that you are either desperate or you undervalue yourself. He will generally walk away although he may lead you a merry dance before he goes. Either way you get hurt. To succeed at dating, show him that you value yourself by not getting too attached until after you know that he is going to make a suitable partner. You can also save yourself from a lot of unnecessary heartache when you don't make this mistake.
Mistake #2 - Sleeping with him too soon
So you don't see why you shouldn't? That is fine. Keep on doing it until you realise how and why it doesn't work. You see, men do not think the same way as women when it comes to relationships and sex. They seem to have double standards that mean that they can have plenty of sexual partners but they don't want their woman to be the same. He will happily sleep with you without thinking that he is in a relationship with you. Then he will question whether you are the type of woman he wants to be in a relationship with because you slept with him too soon. You, on the other hand, will become heavily attached to him the minute it happens and you may even be trying to accelerate your relationship. It is likely to backfire. I highly recommend waiting as long as you possibly can if you want dating to turn into more than just casual sex.
Mistake #3 - Expecting too much too soon
Even though it's early in your relationship, now that you are emotionally attached to him, your expectations start to become higher. While you are now in a relationship, he probably has not even considered whether he wants a future with you at this stage. Men are much slower to make these decisions. So, now he is dating and you are in a relationship - your expectations of each other are therefore out of sync. When he doesn't do the relationship your way you start to complain and try to coerce him into giving you what you want. You feel entitled. He wonders what happened to the happy, go-lucky woman that he first met. His doubts are kicking in. He needs time away from you to think about what is going on. Now you have triggered his withdrawal response.
Mistake #4 - Not being able to cope with his withdrawal response
When a man starts to pull back, a woman often goes into overdrive, trying to put things right and get him to come back to her at all costs. However, you should realise that this withdrawal is a natural response that is part of his make up and one which you are going to have to encounter at some point. When this happens, as long as you stay cool, then you should be able to ride it out. The problem is where you start to display all your fears and negative emotions. If you now beg and plead to keep him, or put your life on hold while you hang around waiting for him to make a decision, you make things worse. This is a fatal dating mistake that so many women make and it doesn't serve you. Let him go while you get on with your own life and the chances are that he will be back. Learn to stay cool and value yourself in dating and you really can make it through to the relationship.
To succeed at dating and find a strong, loving relationship, you need to understand what really makes a man feel good. There is a certain type of woman that a man is irresistibly attracted to. She knows how to captivate him and communicate with him to draw him close and get him to respond in the ways that she wants. You can learn to be the type of woman that men adore and never want to leave. For more information on how to succeed at dating please feel free to visit my website.
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